Your place or hers?
This is a fascinating question. Certainly, she will feel more confident and relaxed at her own place than at yours, particularly if she has not been to yours before. The downside is that so many things will be outside your control. However, you should be safe at her place when either:

• You are fairly sure she is ready for sex with you, any place.
• You are sure there will be another opportunity, so you will take tonight as it comes.

Most women are reluctant to have sex on the first meeting, or even the second. The most usual reason is that ‘nice girls do not do it at the first meeting’. Translated, this means she does not want to risk becoming simply a notch on your bedpost. Maybe she simply feels she would not share her body with someone she has just met, no matter that he is as wonderful as you obviously are. Maybe she is fearful of unknown danger. However, there may be other deep-seated, cultural reasons left from long ago. She may fear disease or not want to get pregnant, or maybe she would like to know you better first. So if you reckon after two engagements together that the time is ripe and so is she, remember to fix an engagement which lands you both at the right place at the right time!

Of course, there is nothing wrong with just testing, particularly if all you want is a quick shag. If you want an unforgettable experience, you have to take some trouble to set it up.

Let’s start when the date is first arranged. If you live some miles apart, you must invite her out somewhere close to you if you want an excuse to bring her back to your place. If you choose a restaurant, pub or cinema local to her, she may be reluctant to accept an invitation to your place because she will know that you could interpret her acceptance to be taken far out of her way as an acceptance of sex when she arrives. However much she is attracted to you, she will not want you to think her a brazen hussy.